The more things seem the same, the more they seem to change.

I’ve been having writers block lately but with the desire to write. I took out my notebook yesterday and my mind wanted to fill up the papers with words I had in my head but I got distracted so I ended up not writing and just did the basic. There’s a foundation I never want to stop and want to continue which is writing as much as possible the five things I’m grateful for.

I have just been doing a lot of spiritual healing, more so having a better attitude and reacting less to triggers. I have grown up in a world where I cared too much about what people thought and how people felt that I couldn’t be as honest as I wanted to be. I am in a space where I’m allowing my values to take over my past and renew my present. I have started to care less about what people say and do and more about what I can do in my own power in response. For a moment I also ran into a hiccup. It’s true when they say that some wounds will appear when you don’t deal with them at the moment that they happen and it’s crazy how much I was even willing to hurt myself because I didn’t love myself enough to address them. Just recently heard a video in which Mel Robbins spoke on a statistic on the odds of being alive right now. 1 in 400 trillion. In short I’m one lucky son of a gun. So even though in a sense I really try not to take my life so seriously now, I still take into consideration the fortune of getting to ride this world in the life that I have been given.

So I found myself in a sea of emotions recently, reminding how human I was and unforgiving I was to myself. I felt as if I was drowning in certain moments, like I couldn’t catch my breath and I was treading for survival. There were wounds that opened up and I had to learn to forgive myself for them. At first I wanted a lot of things to go a particular way because of them but I ultimately figured there’s beauty in the mystery of life. There’s beauty in not forcing things to happen the way that you imagine in your head. There’s beauty in letting life take it’s course and just having the best attitude about it and taking action to ensure the course is smooth.

I found that some things are not forever but that beautiful memories are life’s way of reminding you the great stories you came across being forever for you. Life has a way of introducing even more beautiful memories, much more beautiful than we could reminisce on. So much of that reminded me to focus on the present and I have often had to bring myself back a bunch of times. I am very satisfied in being able to pull myself back though by allowing myself to feel certain things and allowing myself to let go of the fluttering butterfly of emotions that land in the palm of my hands unexpectedly.

I am just lucky, so lucky to have been working on healing my wounds, something I never even thought I’d get to do but I do them so that my daughter won’t pick up the damage. I am also lucky to have been loved, even in those moments when I have felt at my lowest.

Always grateful for the things I experience and happy for life I’m breathing.

Love,

Martha

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Finding Love

I think sometimes we over think this love thing, hell, I mean I know I have. I always thought of love being this perfect little fairytale out of a book. You know, where the Prince Charming somehow becomes your savior or hero in action.

Boy was mine a long shot from a perfect knight in shining armor. I think we disappoint ourselves when we have a checklist in mind for who we think we will end up with. He was complex but for me, easy to understand. He was sweet yet yet rough at times. I always wondered how the outcome would be given that I’ve received so many mixed signals at first but our attraction was undeniable. We were told constantly that we should date and it never occurred to me that we actually would until we did. It tickled my curiosity to find out what it would be like especially since he was so quiet and his silence intrigued me. Not only did he make me curious but I enjoyed his company genuinely so I figured it can’t be bad, right?

Well, within those months I was at a time that I call the time period of finding myself. I was still super new to the real world. I haven’t been given much common sense to take with me so most of the time I was oblivious to my own ignorance and nevertheless I did it my way anyway.

I had let myself be free and also let him be in his world. It was freedom and youth at its highest. I mean, I was enjoying myself and living and so was he. I had been experiencing a type of freedom I never had before which was as a result of moving out of my parents’ house and finding out my previous relationship wasn’t going anywhere. It was just a myriad of ropes that snapped and allowed me to find myself.

Yet, the man I chose ended up being the type of man who I could talk to and confide in. Sometimes even when he he was rough, he still managed to feel like home. He was sweet even though I could tell he was fighting with old habits. Don’t we all have those we fight against?

Of course, I managed to get caught in certain crossfires if that but needless to say, I survived. I feel like sometimes people can misjudge if they’re not in the situation or know what’s really going on behind closed doors but I always feel that we all have flaws and are worthy of forgiveness, especially if we carry good hearts.

I’ve found that all the complications and choices led to my being blessed to have a good man. I always felt fear of not knowing what the future held since I’m sure like others have had interesting experiences in their love life.

Given I had very little experience in relationships, I’ve managed to push through a lot of bull. Learning recent news of a few people I almost made it out with, made me feel grateful that I had who I have. I feel like anyone who knows me knows I had been through a lot on my own.

This relationship also after all, allowed me to be vulnerable.

I was always down to experience a new person but not down to immediately move into the idea of forever after. I was having fun, I was young but each time he would express an idea of a deeper meaningful relationship by being a gentleman, it always turned me out. I was with a man.

He changed the idea of never getting married in me. What’s more, is his respect for people in general. I’m sure as most men do, have their moments of whatever men think about or do of course but for the most part, I got lucky to say that I’ve found love where I didn’t expect to find it at all.

Above all, like I told a friend earlier this week, some questions just have no answers and we don’t need to know all of the answers.

We just need to love hard and cherish each moment that we are alive, whether we are in a relationship or not.

I’m thankful I had experienced other people and relationships before I got to say yes to the one I wanted and don’t feel that “what if” feeling, even if I wished at some moments I could’ve done certain things differently in the way I handled situations which simply reminds me that that’s the beauty of life.

Per usual, we take the test before we learn the lesson. I learned how to forgive without receiving an apology nor seeking one.

Not saying follow my example but if you’re still in that zone of finding yourself, let yourself be free and enjoy the moments that come. Someday you’ll look back and be happy that tons of people contributed to the quality of your life and don’t focus on the negative. Both positive and negative things happen but which side you pay attention to more will determine how you view things.

Always live with love, peace, and happiness.

Love,

Martha

Kids & Health

At first when your kid is still brand new (by a few months) and is starting just to eat, parents usually feed their kids either prepackaged veggies/fruits or homemade veggies/fruits because of time restrictions. Well, that is what we did.

At a very early point in my daughter’s life we introduced veggies and fruits. Somehow though, in our case, vegetables weren’t as consistent on her plate as she was getting older. Since recently my change of diet has been consistent, I have tried to make sure veggies are on the plate, even for her.

Her father was particularly vocal about his dislike for vegetables, particularly broccoli during her very early age. I had to advise him to use code names for this but too late. My daughter, being the observant child that she is, also ended up hating broccoli.

She really HATED it.

If it was green, it was nasty.

But today, I FINALLY got her to eat broccoli. I told her initially that what I was feeding her wasn’t broccoli (just so that she won’t have a biased opinion) but when she had that surprised look on her face I could tell that she LOVED it and I loved that she loved it. We celebrated to the moon and back.

I almost thought I didn’t have anything much to write about today because oddly enough I spent most of it sulking in my own bad luck.

It started off with not being able to do my eyebrows right, to my computer problems RIGHT before I left work, and right before picking up shoes for my daughter. I was going through it today!

However, a video I watched today made me think of how I was feeling and what I was expressing with my vibrations. I was just moody and unhappy but when I caught myself and smiled a little bit more, my mood changed eventually and the small things didn’t bother me anymore. I just felt great the rest of the day. Why were the small bothering me in the first place? My own thoughts.

When you control your thoughts by bringing yourself back to the present with your vibrations and let the bad stuff go, you will be at a better place mentally and spiritually. The rest will fall in line too.

Just know even the bad days have blessings too because when my daughter ate her vegetables and helped me bring the groceries inside, I knew at that moment that nothing else could change the happiness I felt from feeling like today was a great day.

Love,

Martha

September Update

Hey guys so glad to see you all back here!

So tons and tons has happened since I last posted. Last big event that happened was that I got proposed to by the man I have always wanted. Next thing you know, I realized that was asked of me afterwards is when’s the date, how, who, what, where, and I’m like, huh?

I never knew how weddings can get really complicated but I did know how I can use this as an opportunity to create something out of me. I did know that wedding planning is difficult but I felt like I could handle it. Then, to my surprise, I reached out to someone who was also getting married even though at the moment I thought she had already gotten married (I was trying to get referrals of catering, DJ, etc.) I wanted to create something simple and not so crazy since I decided if I’m going to do this I might as well try referrals first. Then to my luck and surprise she let me know one day she wanted start up a an event planning company. So we spoke and I feel personally that the wedding will be beautiful, simple and inexpensive.

Ladies, if you decide you’re about to get married, know that it is not a walk in the park. Research goes into the venue after you decide on a date because why? You have to know if they’ll even be available for when you want it! To my surprise, tons of couples schedule these things years ahead of time and I’m like within months of wanting to get married. Whoops! Well I wanted to do something cute and simple without it being effortless. If you have that kind of money, though, you’ll be able to afford a wedding planner.

I want there to show the work that I also put in to this but I trust the person I spoke with. Plus to me, this an opportunity to practice project management. Yes, that is a thing.

Anyway, I realized as of last weekend, I wasn’t exactly a “party girl” anymore. I went out to Spain for the weekend just to enjoy myself. I got sloppy reaaaaaaaaal fast. Definitely underestimated my capacity lol! I haven’t been out in a while though and the drinks after a while started to taste like water. By the time I realized how drunk I was, I was chugging water and water and dancing as much as I could to sober up. One thing I can say is I’m a professional sober upper haha. Bathroom, water, and physical activity. Food is ideal but I was NOT about to break the diet 🙂

Lastly, this one client I have been helping with her weight loss has been making me so unpredictably proud! It’s like insane and amazing to see someone change their whole bodies and lose some weight and keep it down and not only that but be able to incorporate physical activity. Literally I have made it a priority to help my community as best as possible. I just enjoy trying to get into the swing of things. Since I’m still learning it feels challenging but my client has been doing an amazing job so it makes me feel like I am.

I’ve revisited my past for a moment, sometimes one feels like before moving on or forward, one must reassure and accept the past as being what it is, the past. I just felt so heart freeing after saying my piece telling of my peace. It was liberating.

I just felt a lot of the times in my past I was too savage on my own. Lately though, I have been doing tons of things, even to this day, to work on it. Lately though, I’ve been focusing my energy on my strengths.

Don’t forget guys, to work on yourselves everyday. I cannot stress how important that is. Everyday if you can, listen to some motivational videos, do some physical activity, let your day be more than just another day of nothingness and you’ll see eventually the fruit of all your labors. One thing is for sure, hard work WILL pay off.

Love,

Martha

DIY Coconut Milk Shampoo

So what happened was, I just recently bought shampoo and unfortunately it got left behind in another city! We are going to more but since I am short on time and where I live seems to be a hurricane right now, I decided to make some shampoo at home! (I also had the ingredients though). I also wouldn’t mind detoxing my hair in the meanwhile with natural and organic ingredients to keep it healthy and soft.

But first ☝🏼 the ingredients.

The ingredients involve:

3/4 cups of homemade or store bought coconut milk

20-30 drops of the essential oils of your choice

3/4 cups of Dr. Bronner Castile soap (use baby for children/babies)

3 TSP of vegetable glycerine

1 storage container bottle you’d put it in.

Mine was a very basic dollar store bought squirt bottle. So with that in mind, my ingredients are based on how much that would hold without overflowing.

First in a separate bowl I placed the coconut milk, Castile soap, glycerine, and essential oils. I whisked very lightly to mix the ingredients for only a few seconds and poured it into my bottle. Then I shook the bottle.

See! Easy peasy. I didn’t even realize how easy it was until I quickly did it.

Note: you can use any essential oils you choose. The essential oils I have are from Young Living which are pure and home grown. I used purification because I could smell the hint of rosemary, the tea tree because tea tree ALWAYS does wonders for your hair, scalp, and skin, and the peppermint because it’ll awaken your skin.

If you use a few like I did, make sure you pour more drops of the one you want to smell likemore than the others. I put 15 tea tree, 10 peppermint and 5 purification. 

Thank you for visiting my blog today, hope that was helpful to you!

Love,

Martha

Positive Changes

So last post I made had regarded some chicken, which I have yet to make so yet to create a recipe for but I will post a few more healthy snack recipes for any of you healthy food eaters out there!

Nutrition pretty much is 80% of your health whereas working out counts to 20%, so everything you consume matters so that your workout 20% can matter even more 🙂

I earlier this month or late last month have already signed up to be an Herbalife distributor and I must say that my first month has been extremely eventful and emotional to say the least. I have felt all the emotions from fear to excitement to goal setting.

The one question that people may be asking is why go into Herbalife? Well to be frank, at first it wasn’t even something I considered doing until I completed my first 30 days but I fell in love with the way Herbalife works.

Now, I can’t say I’m a total pro at remembering prices and products but for the most part I understand the ways in which its meant to help you lose weight. I have pretty much over the years of my life learned about nutrition on my own and with Dr. Oz’s help as well as scholarly articles found online. Mind you, these articles as well as people I follow provide credible information.

So it was a combination of my own knowledge attained over the years and new knowledge of Herbalife that I decided to allow my brain to join forces. I have a sister as well that when I was younger helped her lose weight to fit into a sweet sixteen dress. It was one of the most gratifying and accomplishing feelings I felt.

When bumping into Herbalife and observing my mentors and coaches, I found myself to be fascinated by the process and by the way they help whether it’s by meal planning, workouts, and group chat accountability. It’s amazing to see how many people come together for a common purpose which is to help people be health and stay fit.

Either which way, I discovered a passion born in me that created a desire to do more and help people. I want to help people and I want to help my community. We are now part of a population where you can easily fit into the 1/3 or 2/3 statistics of obesity or being overweight.

If I can help just 1 person and make just 1 person happy with their results, it would not be in vain. I’ve never felt more excited and happy about finding a new path to follow and challenge myself.

It will be a hard and rough road to get through since I am new but I feel myself going to blossom into this amazing thing that vibrates a reach I couldn’t even imagine. That’s my ultimate goal but one step at a time, for right now 🙂

Love,
Martha

Healthy Choices Matter

I cannot stress enough how conscious one must be and how one must be in tune with their subconscious to remain in control of the things you eat every day! Some people say it’s calories and some say it has to do with carbohydrates.

People automatically assume any carbs, calories, or sugars is evil. On the contrary, these foods such as carbs, help with energy and maintaining some energy depending on the type of carb you consume. Calories, they are in anything that you consume, for example, an apple contains 95 calories. Sugars and sodium, they both play a part in your health. The one moment that changed me where I realized the true impact of sugars and sodium is through an interview with Dr. Oz. Both sodium and sugars is alright to take in moderation, the problem with our society and with processed food is that most of what you see in boxes of cookies, yogurts, etc. contain paramount amounts of sugars! Sodium is a little forgiving in the amount consumed but like carbs, sugars can convert into fat if you have too much of it and obviously may cause long term problems such as obesity, diabetes, heart problems, etc.

Keeping that in mind, however, you don’t need to stop your entire life and deprive yourself of such indulgences. Normally, so as to prevent myself from eating out or spending money and depending on the shake to maintain my nutrition, I just go home and drink a shake. However, today, the weather gave me a different plan.  Just a few moments ago my phone was buzzing with warnings of a flood watch. Clearly this was not the moment to try and go out to grab a shake, so I accepted my circumstances and went to the work cafeteria to eat.

There was a section near their grill section that stated “Italian Sauté” and I have seen similar stations during the week like “Stir Fry” etc. but every single time they give the option to grab a bunch of veggies and the option to select your choice of protein. So imagine it like a work Chipotle but you have to grab your own veggies.

So I threw in bell peppers, onion, broccoli, mushrooms, such a delectable combination of vegetables to have stir fried on a pan by cooks, then I ordered the chicken. So by the time it came to the pasta, I said just put in the pesto sauce and no pasta. So I was rewarded with a discounted meal by omitting the pasta. Amazing!

How life works in your favor when you wanna stay healthy! So I will recreate later tonight the vegetable stir fry with pesto sauce and post to my blog shortly after. I want you all to understand the amazingness of healthy food! People think you have to eat like a rabbit but the beauty of food is that you can modify to how you see fit, you can add more veggies, you can add spices, you can just love your food to it’s end and it will love you back! Food is like a relationship, you eat trash and that is what will enter your body and be of you but when you eat healthiful and colorful meals, your life will be just that, healthy and colorful!

You are amazing! You CAN do this! Anything is possible once you set your mind to it! You guys, I have done a million things in the book this being 207 pounds at 5’4″ when I gave birth to my daughter and by now I am extremely well versed in nutrition and what’s good for you and bad for you. Allow me to be your coach and give you results! I want you to be your BEST self and I know you do too!

Please bear with me while I concoct my veggie and chicken stir fry recipe but in the meantime, get yourself to my site and go nuts with the health movement and don’t hesitate to ask me questions if there are any:

marthandonis.goherbalife.com

With Love,

Martha